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one of the most important things I try to do with my family is to avoid assuming the role of the health caregiver for the family. This is not an easy thing, but believe me; through my personal experience I realized that this can only bring trouble to you and your family, especially when this means that you can give some advice different from what they've heard. To avoid that, I managed to refer my family to people I know will give the same advice I will consider right.
I guess this is a personal belief. And I managed to make my folks stop asking me on each issue they face and instead they will just show me what did their physician prescribe and I'll advise them on the side effects and tell them to stop using a certain med if I think it's too much to be given, most physicians tend to give more meds than one needs.
However, lately I was faced with a new situation. As many of you know, I'm in the process of a serious relationship ( and please forgive me for mentioning that so much, but this is the main thing that is going on in my life now). But, just a day before my folks were visiting her parents, her dad called me and asked to have a talk together somewhere . and when we went to this nice place, she was with him. We had a small chat, then he told me that she is having a medical condition.
He told me that at the end of her tawjehi year, she had an episode of seizures, and at that time, they were told that this can be a single episode. However, this episode happened again while she was a freshman, and she was then started on anti-seizure meds. He had brought the reports with him to show me.
I fell silent for a while, my work with children with brain tumors made me know enough about such disorders, enough to make me realize that such a thing will not stop me from being with her. I even considered this a sign, cause it just happens that my works made me realize that these disorders can be will controlled. I looked at him and said that such a thing will not stop me from being with her. At that time I looked in her face and I saw the tears. She later told me that she was expecting me to ask for some time to think about it, or even to say no thanks!
I guess this made me realize how much I really love her. I was angry cause she didn't tell me about it before. It was a family matter, and she was not supposed to tell anyone about it. you know the image people see in those people, especially if she was a young woman. I also appreciated her father for being honest about it. However, I asked that my parents should not know about that, they gladly agreed.
So, I guess that means I'll eventually assume the role of the caretaker. I know the consequences of such a decision on our whole life path, including childbearing, career future, insurance issues, and lots else. But, I don't feel sad or disappointed. As I said, I considered this as a sign that we were meant to be together. This meant that I started getting more information of her illness and the medications she use. I also started setting some habits to abide by, drinking good amounts of water, sleeping early, and avoiding stress. Although I do honestly feel a bit scared, but I'm strong enough to take this road, and I know we'll get it through together.
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10 comments:
You are a noble man
A big thumb for you!
(Don't think that I'm an affectionate female. I am a man, and I can understand your situation)
Salam ya 3rees :)
Keefak ?? lsn her dad is an honest man mashalla and thats a great sign in which u can rely on .. he told u everything no matter what the consequences are and b4 anything rasmee like "ktb el ktab" happened so thats a great sign ...
and 4 her tha2ir don't blame her .. she can't say such a thing until the right time comes .. and she was honest enough 2 come with her father ...
ALLA ytmmlak 3ala 5er .. wnshalla ma bseer she:D ALLA yhneek :)
Mashallah, it's truly touching that whatever you two have is much more than just "love". Allah ydeem el ma77abe bro. I'm sure this will help you two become closer. And let me assure you, mawqefak meant THE WORLD to her =)
Anon: Thanks, and don't worry, this comment doesn't mean you're a female, it's not wrong to show feelings, even if you're a man, tough call for an oriental man. I know.
Maroo: Thanks a lot, I know that we'll go through everything together, I'm still thinking of telling her about my Blog, but I still consider this place my personal heaven.
Halawa: Welcome to my blog.
I know that this stance meant whole lot to her, you can't imagine how scared she was of opening the issue with me, even now, she's not so comfortable talking about it with me.
Tha2ir, for the past month I have been psychotically depressed and was on the verge of giving up on the world.
Your post made me the happiest man ever. Bachelor man that is, since I know you're the happiest man ever :)
Mashalla and GOD BLESS YOU
PS: You're a doc, and I, well, put the psycho in psychologist. I do have the belief that this very act of yours and your future dedication may in fact prevent an episode from happening again inshalla.
MAN
remember when I told you in the previous post ,that I hated you for 5 min???
SORRY for that... u r one in a million, not for accepting the whole thing - it is something - but for your way of thinking, I wish if we have a lot of young men like u.
I don't know a scientific information about this, but as I heard that it's not a very serious thing any more specially with keeping on medicine.
It didn't show that you have anew post in my blog roll but I opened your blog to ask you when are you going to till us that you were the rings so we can really congratulate you :D
yalla bedna nefra7 fekom :D
OOPS wear the rings :D
KJ: Thanks man, I really appreciate the Bachelor society support. Now that I'm not one of you miserable people, I advise you to take the right step, and don't think what others think that it's too early, it's never is. Yeah, I hope that by facing it seriously we can avoid another episode from happening. I hope so.
Whisper:
Thanks a lot for the support, no offence was taken the first time, and yes ,if the situation is handled well, the chances of serious effects can be reduced. However, people are always afraid of having an episode in public and this makes them really anxious.
As for the rings; expect the news very soon enshalla, before the end of this week.
Thanks for all your support.
How r u Tha2er??
Long time no see, inshallah every thing is more than perfect with u
Waiting el 2a5bar el 7elweh :D
Hay Whisper, I know I've been away for a while. it's all these engagement stuff, my hand can't stop spinning. I'll be back, I promise
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